Ladies, here's a secret: you don't have to have sex to keep the romance alive.
Most men -- most good men, that is -- can have their "sexual needs" satisfied with something much different. And no, I'm not talking about oral sex or porn or anthing like that.
I'm talking about affection. Pure, real, loving affection.
We mamas get so caught up in our babies after giving birth that we often (usually) forget that our husbands, have needs, too.
And NO, I'm not talking about THOSE kind of needs! To repeat: I'm talking about affection...
I'm here to tell you that your relationship is important, it is worth investing in, and may well be the best gift that you can give your children.
Today I am going to share with you five (not so simple) steps you can take to protect your marriage after baby is born.
When we asked, "what's on your holiday shopping list?" we were thrilled (but not surprised, considering our community) to see that "books" topped the list. So we followed up with another question: "what are your toddler's or preschooler's favorite books?"
The answers included all-time classics, such as Dr. Seuss and Eric Carle, and new favorites by Mo Willem and Jon Klassen. And of course, Goodnight Moon was mentioned so many times -- and is such a library staple -- that we decided not to include it in our top ten books for toddlers.
We added over one hundred most of your book suggestions for young children to our curated Amazon shop, so you can get right to them. Just go to our mini-Amazon store, and click on Top Picks: Books for Preschoolers.
Here are your top ten books for preschoolers (well, maybe not exactly your top ten, but these were all way up there!)
Yesterday I shared some natural ways to prevent colds and flu. Sadly, sometimes even with the best preventative measures, we will become infected.
Many people will call their health-care provider hoping for some magical cure, or hop onto online communities hoping for a natural cure. The fact is, a treated or untreated cold lasts, on average, 7-9 days. Likewise, untreated viral Influenza lasts roughly 4-5 days, the same as medically treated flu. (Note: the Influenza is markedly different than what most people refer to as the flu. Viral Influenza is marked by high fever, body aches, runny nose and sneezing. The flu is not a stomach bug.)
The best cure for colds and flu is time.
Unfortunately colds and flu are very uncomfortable and we need ways to keep our family more comfortable as they recover...
Deciding if and when you will expand your family
The joy of welcoming a new baby into the world is insurmountable, so it is no wonder that many women are often eager to do it again, not long after giving birth to their first little one.
There are so many different perspectives on the best way to approach family planning, and there are plenty of statistics to show both the positive and negative effects of giving your first born a sibling too soon, too late or not at all. The literature available on the subject can be discouraging and overwhelming, but ultimately, the decision to expand your family is a deeply personal and unique one, and there is no right or wrong way to go about doing it.
Whether you feel ready to get right back on the pregnancy bandwagon or you're thinking about taking a few years off, here are a few things to consider when choosing which route is best for her and her family.
- Breastfeeding: If you are hoping to have another baby soon after your first, but are planning to continue breastfeeding, you may find it difficult to conceive, as many women do not regain their fertility until they have stopped breastfeeding. That being said, there are many women who have no problem at all nursing right until giving birth to their second child, and some women even accomplish tandem nursing both their newborn and their toddler.
- Potty Training: This might seem like an insignificant consideration when deciding whether to have a second baby, but many moms try to postpone a second pregnancy until their first is out of diapers. If you are a cloth diaper family, introducing another bum to the family will likely increase the amount of time that you spend in the laundry room, leaving you less time to cuddle and play with your two little ones.
- Parents' Age and Family Size: How many children do you plan to have? The answer to this question will probably help you to determine how quickly you might want to get pregnant again. Of course, mom and dad's age plays a factor in the short term and long term family planning, as well. Depending on the stage of life that you are in when your first baby comes along, you may want to take into account where you'd like to be when your last one graduates high school. If you have always dreamed of having a large family, waiting too long to have your second baby could throw off your schedule. On the contrary, if you expect that your family will be complete with two children, you may have a little more time to spread them out.
- Sibling Dynamics: Many parents have an idea of the kind of sibling dynamic they hope to create between their children. Often, it is a dynamic based on the one that they had when they were growing up. There is sufficient research to inform the discerning parent on the pluses and minuses of having children close in age versus spacing them further apart, but ultimately, there are no steadfast rules when deciding how soon to give your child a sibling.