Amy Waud

A lot of people have wondered: why did we do a post coming out on the side of vaccines? Why now? Why ever, when this is such a hot topic? And what do the other moderators think? And why did we only reference one source?

Well, here it goes.

Amy Waud

Selected Links Regarding Vaccinations

We jumped into the vaccination debate with our eyes wide open, fully-aware that we would lose many members when we addressed this untouchable subject. We did so because we this issue is simply too important to ignore. We could not, in good conscience, remain silent on the topic any longer. You can read Pam's positions on vaccines here, and Amy's follow-up post on the anti-vaccine debate here.

To support the discussion, and because so many moms have asked for it, below is a list of links related to the pro-vaccine side of the debate.

Amy Waud

Ladies, here's a secret: you don't have to have sex to keep the romance alive.

Most men -- most good men, that is -- can have their "sexual needs" satisfied with something much different.  And no, I'm not talking about oral sex or porn or anthing like that.

I'm talking about affection.  Pure, real, loving affection.

We mamas get so caught up in our babies after giving birth that we often (usually) forget that our husbands, have needs, too.

And NO, I'm not talking about THOSE kind of needs!  To repeat: I'm talking about affection...

Amy Waud

The season of giving is upon us.  And that means the season of saying "thank you" a lot -- or, of being really, really embarrassed when your kid doesn't.  Ah, there are few things worse than seeing the disappointment on Grandpa's face after your child has ripped open a present, tossed it aside, and moved on to another with nary a glance in Grandpa's direction.

If you're like most parents, you're dismayed and confused at your child's unwillingness to say "thank you."  After all, she says "please" all the time, right?

There are other parents who think it is OK if their child doesn't say "thank you."  They rationalize that saying "thank you" is not natural or developmentally appropriate.  Their child just isn't ready for such a burden.

I wholeheartedly disagree...

Amy Waud


We recently asked, "what are your favorite kids books?" and based on your answers, we compiled a nifty article to summarize your recommendations.

Now, I'm a bit older than most of our mamas, so it may not come as a surprise that I had, um, some consternation about some old-school classics that didn't appear on that list.  Then it occurred to me that with soooo many choices in children's books today, it could be that childrens book classics are just not getting the same publicity and love as newer books...

Amy Waud

Guess what: you're not a perfect parent, and you never will be. So you might as well learn to apologize now. And yes, I mean apologize to your child.

We grown-ups spend lots of time encouraging our kids to apologize to other kids, and trying to get our partners to apologize to us for leaving the toilet seat up. But many parents would never think of apologizing to their child for fear of appearing weak or -- gasp -- inconsistent. We are, after all, supposed to be firm. We know that children, even toddlers, feel safe when their parents are predictable and their boundaries are well-built. Yet apologies usually involve some sort of backtracking, and that would mean undoing whatever we just did: calling-off the time-out, giving back the favorite toy, etc. But isn't that the same as caving in? Won't my child think I'm a pushover?

Luckily, it's not that same thing, and your child won't think you are a pushover. He'll appreciate your apology. He'll see you as fair and trustworthy. And he'll learn through your example what it means to take responsibility for one's actions, how to make things right, and how to move forward after a dispute.

Now, our new first-time mamas will take an oath: I will NEVER, NOT EVER do any wrong -- large or small or miniscule -- to my sweet baby.

I'm sorry, but I'm here to tell you that you WILL crack over spilled milk, you will say "no" for no good reason at all. You'll overreact, you'll take "it" out on your kid, you'll hurt your child's feelings.